I clearly remember sitting in front of our new marriage counselor, my face burning with both embarrassment and anger. Within the first few minutes of meeting, it became clear to me that he had already assumed that I wasn’t walking with the Lord. In truth, I was a confident warrior wife, determined not to give up!
If only he knew the time I spent searching the Word for comfort and wisdom. If only he knew the time I spent confessing my own sin and inviting the Lord to search my heart, the time I spent in prayer for both myself and my husband, begging the Lord to intervene.
If only he knew… perhaps he would have been more gentle and less presumptive.
Goodness knows those hinted at accusations were true of me in the past, but praise the Lord, I had changed as a wife.
Nevertheless, I began to question myself. His suggestions played right into my perfectionism as I wondered – maybe I haven’t prayed enough? Maybe my faith isn’t strong enough? Maybe I’m really not a good enough wife and that’s why our marriage is struggling?
These are questions many Christian wives struggle with!
How can a Christian wife know she is doing her best? How can she be a confident warrior wife who perseveres, one who fights for her marriage?
Fighting for a healthy marriage may feel like an impossible task, friend, and it is if we try to fight in our own strength. But let’s not forget that we who are in Christ belong to the God of the impossible.
Lately I’ve been reading through the Chronicles, and I’m impressed with the number of times God helped his people overcome enemies, even when outnumbered! Often, God’s people didn’t even have to go into battle because the Lord went before them and destroyed their enemies in miraculous ways.
A confident warrior wife is one who remembers her strength doesn’t come from herself, but from her Almighty God!
A confident warrior wife exercises her faith daily – not perfectly, but persistently. She prepares for battle in very specific ways.
Follow me over to my friend and co-author Rebekah Hallberg’s site for 5 Tips on How to Be a Confident Warrior Wife.
I’m also sharing some encouragement for times when God doesn’t intervene and a marriage fails.