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How to Stand Firm in the War on Your Marriage

September 14, 2017 by jstults 5 Comments

That night we went to bed angry, as far apart in the bed as we could possibly get without falling off the edges. I knew my heart was wrong, but he was wrong, too, so I refused to give in.

But my guilty conscience gave me no rest.

I wept angry tears, and pleaded with God to help me find a way out, a way back to what was right. I wondered, why is marriage such a war?

Some days marriage seems like hard work, while other days it feels like an all out war, doesn’t it?

The truth is that there is a war on your marriage, and it’s not just about the present conflict between you and your husband.

God’s Word tells us that the Enemy seeks to destroy our lives (1 Peter 5:8-9), and marriage conflict is a tool He uses often. So, friend, the war on your marriage is real, but it’s not a war of this world – it’s a war of the spiritual world the likes of which Paul spoke of in the book of Ephesians.

For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Eph. 6:12 (NIV)

Fellow wife, I know you may be hard-pressed and Satan’s attacks seem never-ending, but we serve a God who loves to demonstrate His might over the forces of darkness!

As you choose to stand firm in the war on your marriage, keep in mind these three tips.

3 Ways to Stand Firm in the War on Your Marriage

  1. Confront Satan’s lies.

So often women feel shame over marriage issues, even if those issues are a result of their husband’s sin and not their own. This is perhaps especially true in Christian marriages because we have that deep desire to be the godly wife we know God wants us to be.

Because we’re ashamed, we hide our problems from others and trying to put up a good front. We begin to believe the lie that we’re alone in our suffering. It’s the oldest trick in the book, dating all the way back to the Garden of Eden; the Enemy uses it often.

However, when we allow shame to rule us, we give Satan the spiritual foothold he is looking for.

These 3 biblically based tips will help you stand firm in the war on your marriage! Christian marriage|godly wife|spiritual warfare|fighting for marriage|standing for marriage|Christian women|Christian resources|Bible studies|devotionals

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Comments

  1. Andrea says

    October 15, 2017 at 23:03

    Well friend. Once again, reading through random Pinterest blogs and look what I came across. Why have I not known that you write blogs with Gods truths to back it all up? Jen, you are amazing. The encouragement I so desperately needed today. I was beginning to think i was looking in all the wrong places (which in reality I am), I should be in my bible, but, if I was I would have never run across this post.

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    • jstults says

      October 17, 2017 at 11:35

      Andrea, you are so sweet! I started doing this a few years ago after feeling convicted that I wasn’t using all of my gifts for the Lord. I’m so thankful you found encouragement here, and that you took the time to let me know. That encourages me!
      Jen 🙂

      Reply
  2. Tiffany says

    November 5, 2017 at 20:56

    I was encouraged to find this through Stumble today. The enemy is surely always on the attack. Needed to be reminded of these truths… again 😉

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  3. tiffany says

    April 20, 2018 at 14:00

    I can’t tell you how many times I come back to this to be encouraged!

    Reply
    • jstults says

      May 25, 2018 at 13:52

      I was just reminded of it myself the other day, Tiffany! 🙂 Nice to see your face here!

      Reply

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